After a separation, single parents will probably have fewer arguments and fights with their ex, but usually that doesn’t stop totally.
When my marriage turned bad, it was because of a lack of communication skills. Later I learned how to do that properly and since then it has become a major element in my treatment program. By now I have helped hundreds of patients and workshop participants learn how to communicate easily and without misunderstandings, and in the end I will show you how you can take this further for your own life.
Misunderstandings, arguments, fights or even domestic violence are a result of not conveying thoughts and feelings in a way that is non-hurtful. if this happens in your life, it’s just because until today nobody has taught you how to do that. The good news is that this is a learnable skill.
In this article I want you to show you how to communicate in a way which means that you will have no stress in discussions anymore, even if your ex does not cooperate.
In an argument, people mostly exchange their opinion about an issue instead of the facts and their feelings. But why should your dialogue partner except your mere opinion? And why should you do the same? So everyone is dug in and there is no progress. This usually leads to anger and blame – a dead-end communication road.
Here are the 6 steps to better communication:
- Think first. Get clear on what you want, then write it down.
- Talk about the facts, not your opinion about the facts.
- Repeat verbatim what you’ve heard: “I hear that you say … “
- Now state your own feelings about what has been said: “What you said makes me feel … “
- Then tell your needs: “… because I have the need for … “
- In the end you can make a request: “Therefore I ask you for … “
If you are interested in a webinar where you will learn this within 90 minutes, you can join my private Facebook group “Perfect Relationship Blueprint” and ask for the “Communication Webinar”.